Becky thank you for making the space for having the conversation. It is needed.
And you are also pointing at something else that is essential: at the end, we are all in it. In my view, it is more about inclusion than division⦠yes we are women and men, but under our genders and identities, we all share common ground.
Thank you for sharing this. I watched the video and I can see why you called it βprovocativeβ. She definitely stirred the pot π
While I donβt agree with everything, it gave me a lot to think about. I believe many women (myself included) didnβt become βindependentβ to push men away, but to protect ourselves and build identities beyond survival.
But I also agree that thereβs space for men to lead, feel, or not feel in their own ways. And for women to stop carrying everything alone.
This conversation is layered. And I think what matters most is respect on both sides. Weβre all trying to unlearn, relearn, and show up better, not just for each other, but for ourselves first. Appreciate the share ππ½
Wow, I felt that π₯ Thank you for sharing this truly. I donβt think your words cancel what I wroteβ¦ they add a layer. A necessary one. Because yes, for some men, healing doesnβt begin in stillness, it begins in agency. In movement. In purpose. In doing.
And maybe thatβs the point:
There isnβt one way to be whole. There isnβt one definition of vulnerability. Maybe your tears of fire are just as valid as someone elseβs quiet breakdown.
So hey, if Superman needs a minute to punch the wall and come back stronger, I get it. Just donβt forget to check in with your heart after you rebuild the world ππ
I truly hope it reaches the ones who need to hear it. Sometimes all it takes is one message to make someone feel seen especially those who rarely hear these words. Thank you for reading βΊοΈπ«Άπ»
Thatβs a power perspective. The emotional labor and pressure is so real and I love that you can see it with such compassion. We talk about strong women a lot (rightfully so), but men carry silent weights tooβ¦ and itβs time we hold space for everyoneβs inner world π€
Thatβs why men like to be with friends.
Believe me, we deal with our emotions, we know to feel. But we just do it in a different way.
We also like being alone sometimes.
I donβt focus so much on being seen or understood by the women in my life (wife, mom, sis), I just care for their respect.
Respect? Yes, respect to who I am, what I do, what I want to achieve, my time, my friends.
Thankfully they do.
I really appreciate this perspective. It reminds me that not all emotional processing looks the same and sometimes, respect is the love language.
The goal was never to paint men as emotionless, but to question the pressure to be unbreakable.
We all feel. We all need space.
Thank you for showing another side of the story π«Άπ»
Becky thank you for making the space for having the conversation. It is needed.
And you are also pointing at something else that is essential: at the end, we are all in it. In my view, it is more about inclusion than division⦠yes we are women and men, but under our genders and identities, we all share common ground.
I remembered this video, it holds lots of shocking truths. The delivery might be a bit provocative but I know you can get to the golden nuggets:
https://youtu.be/Q3WsgZZtL50?si=QRqeE2KUg90YAXJa
Thank you for sharing this. I watched the video and I can see why you called it βprovocativeβ. She definitely stirred the pot π
While I donβt agree with everything, it gave me a lot to think about. I believe many women (myself included) didnβt become βindependentβ to push men away, but to protect ourselves and build identities beyond survival.
But I also agree that thereβs space for men to lead, feel, or not feel in their own ways. And for women to stop carrying everything alone.
This conversation is layered. And I think what matters most is respect on both sides. Weβre all trying to unlearn, relearn, and show up better, not just for each other, but for ourselves first. Appreciate the share ππ½
Thank you for writing this, more men need to hear it. ππΌ
Iβm glad it resonated with you Mark. Thanks for reading π«Άπ»β¨π€
Very profound.
Thank you Philip π€π«Άπ»
When you see us men 'trying to be strong all the time' it isnβt performanceβitβs purpose. Itβs identity.
Your words got in my head... again. So I wrote this:
https://open.substack.com/pub/happy2bwritting/p/lions-tears?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=5q32eg
Wow, I felt that π₯ Thank you for sharing this truly. I donβt think your words cancel what I wroteβ¦ they add a layer. A necessary one. Because yes, for some men, healing doesnβt begin in stillness, it begins in agency. In movement. In purpose. In doing.
And maybe thatβs the point:
There isnβt one way to be whole. There isnβt one definition of vulnerability. Maybe your tears of fire are just as valid as someone elseβs quiet breakdown.
Your post reminded me that softness isnβt always the medicine. Sometimes, itβs rising with grit, through rage, through motion, through sweat. That too is healing β€οΈβπ©Ή
So hey, if Superman needs a minute to punch the wall and come back stronger, I get it. Just donβt forget to check in with your heart after you rebuild the world ππ
I could not cancel your words if I tried.
You speak in thoughtful truths. Truths that resonate. Truths that in some small way⦠heal.
Thank you.
Thank you Ken π«Άπ»β¨
Honestly, this posts needs to get to as much men as possible πππ. Thank you for dropping this for the men
I truly hope it reaches the ones who need to hear it. Sometimes all it takes is one message to make someone feel seen especially those who rarely hear these words. Thank you for reading βΊοΈπ«Άπ»
Thank you for this. I often think about this the pressure on men to perform and to be protector. If I feel that as mother, how much more do they?
Thatβs a power perspective. The emotional labor and pressure is so real and I love that you can see it with such compassion. We talk about strong women a lot (rightfully so), but men carry silent weights tooβ¦ and itβs time we hold space for everyoneβs inner world π€
Love this Becky. And to our men, please know, itβs OK if you are not.
Yes, that part. βItβs okay if youβre not okayβ. Thank you for echoing this reminder so beautifully β¨